Internal Family Systems

What is IFS?

"IFS is a transformative, evidence-based psychotherapy that helps people heal by accessing and loving their protective and wounded inner parts. We believe the mind is naturally multiple and that is a good thing. Just like members of a family, inner parts are forced from their valuable states into extreme roles within us. We also all have a core Self.

Self is in everyone. It can’t be damaged. It knows how to heal.

By helping people first access their Self and, from that core, come to understand and heal their parts, IFS creates inner and outer connectedness."  - IFS Institute

SELF ENERGY

Qualities include:

Courage

Confidence

Creativity

Clarity

Compassion

Curiosity

Calm

Connected

We ALL possess these qualities at our core.

MANAGERS

Protectors of the system. Attempt to keep the person in control of every situation and relationship in order to protect them from feeling hurt or rejected.

  • Controller

  • Judge

  • Planner

  • Self-critical

  • Passive pessimist

  • Caretaker

  • Striver

FIREFIGHTERS

Firefighters also protect the system but act after exiles are upset to either soothe them or distract from them.  Any activity can be used to get away from exiles, but common ones include:

  • Driven/immersed in: sleep, work, sex, diet, exercise, computer, video games.

  • Addictions

  • Binge eating

  • Suicidality

  • Self-harm

  • Vigilance

  • Dissociation

  • Distraction

  • Obsession

  • Compulsion

  • Fantasy

EXILES

Hold painful emotions that have been isolated from the conscious Self for protection of the system or for the part’s safety.  They become increasingly extreme in an effort to be cared for and share their story.  Carry burdens from being wounded.

  • Rage

  • Dependency

  • Shame

  • Fear/terror

  • Loneliness

  • Grief/loss

HEKDKDHERHERRE

HERE IS A LINK TO A QUICK OVERVIEW OF HOW THIS WORKS:

https://youtu.be/J-tUgrXR5ro